Leaving a Legacy: Sustaining Family Unity, Faith, and Wealth
Authors: Dan T. Garrett and Tim Woodroof
Abilene Christian University Press, 2014
Paperback, $10.68 on Amazon
Dan T. Garrett is a popular speaker and coach on matters of stewardship, faith, values and wealth. Tim Woodruff has been a pastor for over 30 years. He now serves as a church consultant and has authored 10 books.
Have you thought about the legacy you will leave?
Whether by design or default you will leave a legacy. Whatever survives you when you are gone will be your legacy.
The underlying premise of the book is that the values you live by are your most important asset, and the greatest inheritance your heirs will receive has less to do with valuables than with wisdom.
If you are a parent, grandparent, or house parent, consider what you are leaving to those you love most. This book gives guidance beyond leaving just our valuables. Perhaps more importantly, it helps us in passing on our values.
Highlights of the book.
- A sobering statistic. In families where new wealth is created by one generation, 70 % of that wealth has dissipated by the second generation, and 90% is lost by the third generation. It has nothing to do with taxes, economies, or cultures. It is the failure of families to transfer leadership and values to succeeding generations.
- Twelve characteristics and habits commonly found in families that pass on values as well as possessions.
- Four fundamental questions we need to ask:
(1) who are my heirs?
(2) what do I leave behind?
(3) how will I pass on my legacy?
(4) why do I want to leave a legacy?
4. “Leaving a Legacy” explores what you will pass on, a legacy process and possessions and people of faith.
5. The Appendices (41 pages) are filled with exercises, ideas, questions, and tools to help in putting into practice the teachings in the book. Concepts don’t have much personal value until they are applied. This section should not be skipped over. It is the best way to turn good intentions into reality. It is a valuable tool for all Christians serious about leaving a legacy of faith.
Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City
by Matthew Desmond
Broadway Books, New York, 2016, Amazon $11.88, paperback
Matthew Desmond is a Professor of Sociology at Princeton University. His book “Evicted” has won several awards since publication in 2016.
In “Evicted” Matthew Desmond exposes the 10 million low income households that pay half or more of their income for rent and utilities. “Evicted” follows 8 families (black, white, with children and without children) in Milwaukee, Wisconsin who are in the process of eviction. Losing their home sends families to shelters, abandoned houses, and the street. This is among the most urgent and pressing issues facing America today.
Desmond’s two main points:
- Growing numbers of low-income households pay much of their income, some as much as 70% or more for rent. This leaves little for food, medicine and other basic needs.
- Evictions aren’t just a consequence of poverty, but also a cause.
Desmond is a poverty expert who engages with the poor. His images are vivid. For example, Crystal who takes in Arleen, had parents on crack and she got passed around to two dozen foster homes. She ends up homeless and prostituting herself, but never misses church!
This book is about one of the most basic human needs – a roof overhead. The stories Desmond tells are gripping, moving, tragic and true! This book enlightens us and serves as a call to action.
Surely some of the children in our childcare agencies come to us as a result of their family being evicted and the cascading events that follow. The following is from the back cover of the book.
Evicted transforms our understanding of poverty and economic exploitation while providing fresh ideas for solving one of twenty-first-century America’s most devastating problems. Its unforgettable scenes of hope and loss remind us of the centrality of home, without which nothing else is possible.
2018 Kids Count Data Book State Trends in Child Well-Being
How are the children in your state faring in your state?
The Annie E. Casey Foundation acknowledges that contributions of many make the KIDS COUNT Data Book possible.
This publication opens by dealing with the census. The 2010 census failed to count nearly 1 million children under ag 5. Some of the reasons why this happened are:
- Whole families are not counted because living arrangements are complex
- Kids live in places traditionally that are harder to count. These include places where poverty is high and where multi-unit buildings and rental housing are more common.
- Some families respond to the census, but don’t include all members on the survey.
If kids facing the greatest obstacles are not counted, their needs become invisible. Their future becomes uncertain. The 2020 census will be the first one conducted primarily online.
KID COUNT has ranked states annually on overall child well-being using 4 domains as to what children need most to thrive.
- Economic well-being
- Family and Community
The value of the KID COUNT Data Book is that one can look at his own state and compare each of the domains with other states. One can see trends in certain states and parts of the country. For example, the New England states typically rate high in overall well-being. The bottom of the rankings was in states in Appalachia as well as the southeast and southwest where families have the lowest levels of household income.
The 2018 KIDS COUNT Data Book is full of colored charts, graphs, maps and photos on almost every page, making it easy to compare and analyze the data.
This publication could be useful to national, state and local leaders involved with families and children, including foster care, teachers, adoption agencies, and those in healthcare and education.
The 2018 KID COUNT Data Book can be viewed, downloaded or ordered (free of charge) at www.aecf.org/databook.
Fall or Fly: The Strangely Hopeful Story of Foster Care and Adoption in Appalachia
by Wendy Welch
Ohio University Press, 2018.
$14.34 used paperback at Amazon. Also available on kindle.
Wendy Welch works in public health and grew up in a small community near the coal mines. She divides her time between writing up observations of Appalachia and working to make it a more just and sustainable place.
“Fall or Fly” is a compelling, unvarnished glimpse into the complex world of foster care and adoption in modern-day Appalachia. Dr. Welch provides readers with a multifaceted view of the system through the eyes of children, foster parents, and caseworkers. It will surely become a treasured resource, not only for those interested in becoming foster or adoptive parents but for those who desire a more complete understanding of the foster care system.
Senator Bill Carrico, Virginia State Legislature
In Fall or Fly, Wendy Welch invites more than sixty social workers, foster parents, adoptees, and others to share their experiences. This book explores how love, compassion, money and fear intermingle in the complex system entrusted with our nation’s greatest asset.
The opioid epidemic sweeping our country has especially affected Appalachia. Many children have lost parents to addiction.
Fall or Fly tells the day-to-day successes and failures of families involved in the child welfare system.
Several strong points in Welch’s book are:
- A deeper understanding of social workers and what they face
- Insight into foster parents and what it might be like to be a foster child.
- The five words that resonate throughout the interviews
- The book is readable and engaging
A weakness in the book was keeping the names and stories straight. With so many interviews (even though the names were changed) and stories, the relationships between the people, and how it affected their lives, often became confusing.
Anyone living within the region of our country called Appalachia needs to read this book. Also, it is a book that could be useful for those in child care, foster care, adoption, social work and those wishing to gain an understanding of the reality many children are facing in Appalachia.
Before We Were Yours
by Lisa Wingate
New York: Published by Ballantine books, 2017,342 pages.
When I read Proverbs 31:8, 9, “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the right of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly, defend the rights of the poor and needy, I often wonder how I can do that? Maybe all of us ask that same question.
Lisa Wingate’s novel, Before We Were Yours, a 2017 New York Times bestseller based on a true scandal in the 1930’s involving the Tennessee Children’s Home Society, powerfully addresses the issue of those who cannot speak for themselves. (Note: Tennessee Children’s Home Society is not connected to Tennessee Children’s Home, Inc. that is part of Network 1:27).
Written from two viewpoints, both immediately captivate the reader. The first takes place in the present as Avery Stafford, the daughter of a politician considers her grandmother’s past and discovers hidden family secrets of orphans and adoptive parents. The second viewpoint comes through the eyes of twelve-year-old Rill Foss. Living on a shanty boat with their mother and father, Rill and her four younger siblings are poor but happy. One-night Rill is left in charge as her father rushes her mother to the hospital. Soon strangers arrive promising Rill and her siblings that they will see their mother and father. Instead they are thrown into the Tennessee Children’s Home Society orphanage. Although assured they will be returned to their parents, the children soon learn this is one of many lies they hear at the children’s home. The two viewpoints eventually intersect, as Avery considers her unknown past and Rill looks into her uncertain future.
Wingate reveals the injustice of children and poor families at the hands of Georgia Tann, the director of the Children’s Home. Based on a notorious real-life scandal, Before We Were Yours reminds us that we must speak up for children who cannot speak for themselves.
The book’s dedication is especially relevant to those who are part of Network 1:27 and work in childcare. It reads: “For the hundreds who vanished and for the thousands who didn’t. May your stories not be forgotten. For those who help today’s orphans find forever homes. May you always know the value of your work and your love.” This is important to keep in mind when facing daily challenges that come with working with children as part of Network 1:27. Whether the difficulties be with the children, funding, conditions, opposition, families, or lack of appreciation, helping children is valuable.
One of the strengths of the book is realizing how children in our country suffered for three decades at Tennessee Children’s Home Society. Mary Sykes, one of those children along with her infant sister, was stolen from the porch of her unmarried mother’s home when she was just four years old. Placed in the care of the TCHS Mary reflects, “I remember sitting on the floor in a room full of cribs, reaching through the bars and just patting my sister’s arm. She was too weak and dehydrated to even cry. No one would help her. Once it was clear that she was too far gone to recover, a worker put her in a cardboard box and carried her away. I never saw her again. I heard later that, if babies got too sick or cried too much, they’d set them in the sun in a carriage and leave them.”
At the end of her novel, Wingate gives several sources for further reading and research on Georgia Tann and the Tennessee Children’s Home Society. Two of the most recent books are “Alone in the World: Orphans and Orphanages in America” by Catherine Reef (2005) and “The Baby Thief: The Untold Story of Georgia Tann, the Baby Seller Who Corrupted Adoption” by Barbara Bisantz Raymond (2007).
While exposing a chapter in our nation’s history that involved the stealing and selling of children, this novel encourages all who work with children. The dedication reminds us that it is those who are involved in foster care and adoption, from the Board to house parents, that can make a difference in the lives of children. These are the men and women who can and must speak for those who cannot speak for themselves.
Faith and Foster Care: How We Impact God’s Kingdom
Dr. John DeGarmo
2016, New Hope Publishing
Amazon: Kindle $5.58, Paper $14.99
Are you a foster parent? Have you considered being a foster parent, or do you know someone who is currently fostering children? The turnover rate of foster parents in the US is 30-50% each year. Dr. John DeGarmo, a foster parent for twelve years writes to inform and encourage those fostering or considering fostering children. At the time he wrote the book, he and his wife had 6 biological and adopted children and 5 foster children.
After a brief history of the foster care system in the US, Dr. DeGarmo tells why he and his wife decided to foster. Foremost he believes it is his responsibility as a Christian to follow through with Jesus’ words in Matthew 25:35, 36. “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.” Many foster children fit this description.
The book is an easy read and gives an accurate assessment of fostering. Dr. DeGarmo recounts the positives, for example feeling one is fulfilling their purpose in life, as well as the challenges that come being a foster parent.
One of the highlights of the book is the actual stories from foster parents and foster children. For those who have never been involved in fostering these give insights from two different perspectives.
Dr. DeGarmo gives advice to foster parents about being too busy and not having time for self or one’s spouse, and the reality of burnout. I felt Dr. DeGarmo and his wife could not say “no” when asked to foster. Even when they had as many children as they felt like they could handle, when a call came they responded by taking more in. At one point they had 9 foster children and the author admits they could not even schedule a date night. It seemed he was not practicing what he advised.
A highpoint of the book is the sixteen ways one can pray for foster children. These could be used by parents, children, childcare agencies or anyone who has a heart for children and fostering.
His practical suggestions of how churches can get involved in foster care could be helpful to classes, small groups and ministries in congregations looking for a way to serve. These include:
- prepare a mal at the building, feed foster families and then take care of the children, giving the foster parents a reprieve
- coordinate family visitation at the church building for children in foster care
- provide respite care -adopt foster children during the holiday season
- provide a new or gently used suitcase for foster children
- provide mentoring for those who have aged out of the system
The book ends with several pages of helpful resources, including (1) foster care offices by state (2) national organizations (3) faith-based organizations.
I believe the book could be used by Network 1:27 agencies as a resource for families who are fostering or considering fostering. Or perhaps, it could be used by a staff member, gaining ideas to share with foster parents or perspective foster parents.
Book Review written by Sally Shank
Karyn B. Purvis, Ph.D., David R. Cross, Ph.D. and Wendy Lyons Sunshine
McGraw Hill, New York, 2007. Paperback $6.74 on Amazon
Karen Purvis – Director of Texas Christian University’s Institute of Child Development of Texas Christian University’s Institute of Child Development.
David Cross – Associate Director of Development and professor in TCU’s Psychology department.
Wendy Lyons Sunshine – award winning journalist
Are you a parent, or do you know a parent at the end of their rope? Frustrated and confused by their child’s behavior and realizing everything they have tried doesn’t seem to work, they don’t know where to turn.
Written by two research Psychologists specializing in adoptive and attachment, "The Connected Child" uses a holistic approach in dealing with children. This book will help you build bonds with your child, deal with learning and behavioral disorders and discipline your child with love.
“The Connected Child” is written to adoptive parents, especially those who have adopted children that have been wounded or are at risk. Although the adoptive family is the target audience, this book is an excellent resource for all families striving to connect with their children.
Some of the issues addressed are compassion, risks, attachment, dealing with defiance, misbehavior, proactive strategies, stress, life values, and dealing with setbacks.
A strength of this book is the concrete suggestions that are proven and give parents guidance in dealing with many issues they face, whether they are foster parents, adoptive parents or biological parents. A second strong point is helping parents see and understand why the child is acting and responding like he does.
A weakness of “The Connected Child” is wondering if one can implement the hundreds of suggestions discussed. Yet, focusing on one area at a time, and following the practical suggestions given, one can certainly improve any parent child relationship. This straight forward book will be beneficial to parents, child care workers, teachers and anyone working with children. For those who are a part of Network 1:27, I believe it would be especially useful for houseparent’s and families who are fostering and adopting.